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Feedback needed

Somehow that matrix didn’t copy real well to Tuesday’s post, so I’ve re-printed it below in a better format.

Comments by both Ed and David D got me thinking about another matrix which might help us in “re-ordering” our priorities.  This matrix is found in James Lawrence’s work, Growing Leaders, and underlines, for one, the need for feedback from others.

Feedback,” as Lawrence writes, “helps open up the blind self.  In every context, inviting feedback from those who know us, love us and want the best for us helps combat delusion and develop character, but we’ll often need to invite it.”  Such feedback would be valuable in honestly assessing how to better “use” or prioritize our time.

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  1. I’m just reading through some comments by Dallas Willard concerning what he is calling the “elephant” in the evangelical church, which the lack of real transformation in the lives of disciples. One of the greatest needs is for me to live in biblical community where I can have my blind spots identified and where I can practice disclosure in an environment of grace and truth. I’m convinced through the Scriptures and experience that biblical community is necessary to my Christian growth.

  2. Purpose and Value Driven Thinking

    From a corporate viewpoint how do we in World Team keep focused on that which is important? We can do so by asking, “How important and essential is my thinking and resultant work related to the purpose and vision of World Team and in alignment to our core values ?”

    Jim Perry , my wife’s brother-in-law wrote in his blog today the following related to our thinking in corporate community:

    Blinders are used on most race horses for two basic reasons: (a) to prevent distraction, and (b) to keep the horse focused on the immediate goal, namely – The Finish Line! There is a similar purpose with Ear Plugs: (a) to prevent any interruption of concentration, and (b) as much as possible, to minimize a startling sound that could alter a thought process. Ear Plugs also are beneficial to minimize unusual and piercing sounds. Ear Plugs are helpful if one is exposed to a high decibel and/or percussion experience. Without them, there would be a risk of Hearing Impairment.

    On a purely cultural and societal level, there are considerations that cause one to be blind to the obvious and tone deaf. Such a one cannot allow himself to comprehend responses to what is occurring, while making a choice to block out any counsel, advice, or sounds that offer anything that is an alternative to a determined course. When this occurs – a person refusing to see or hear the obvious – it can be referenced as several differing things, but more than likely it is due to Arrogance. It has been diagnosed and defined in response to this question: What is arrogance?
    • Arrogance assumes that because you can’t imagine how something can be done, you can declare without reservation that it’s impossible to do!
    • Arrogance does all the talking and none of the listening.
    • Arrogance rejects advice, simply because someone else said it or because your mind is already made up or you don’t want anybody else to get the credit.
    • Arrogance stubbornly refuses to change one’s mind when it knows it is wrong.
    • Arrogance spouts off without reservation and is focused on the “I” rather than the “We”.
    • Arrogance is an unwillingness to consider the possibility of making the 360-degree turn in any matter or at any time.
    • Arrogance is the demonstrated body-language that allows – right or wrong, “I” am right.
    This, in fact, is a misuse of a Blinder and/or Ear Plugs.

    Proverbs 4:23-27 gives a guideline for the maintenance of spiritual commitment and integrity: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do not swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.” The Message Translations is: “Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that’s where life starts. Don’t talk out of both sides of your mouth; avoid careless banter, white lies, and gossip. Keep your eyes straight ahead; ignore all sideshow distractions. Watch your step, and the road will stretch out smooth before you. Look neither right nor left; leave evil in the dust.”
    ….

    The Message translates a portion of The Sermon on the Mount – Matthew 5:33-37 – “And don’t say anything you don’t mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, God be with you, and not meaning it. You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say yes and no. When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.” …. Consider these things with me!

  3. A few months ago, David Smith and I realized that we were reading the same book at the same time without having talked about it: The Invisible Gorilla. I’ll paste a link to an excerpt from this book: http://www.theinvisiblegorilla.com/excerpt.html.

    Interesting as far as anecdotes go, if you follow this trail.

  4. Another take on the feedback matrix can be found on p.98,99. in the book “The Ascent of a Leader” by Thrall, McNicol and McElrath. (Josey-Bass Publishers) They call it the Johari Window, developed by Joe Luft and Harry Ingham. The Johari Window shows how when we disclose ourselves to others or when we are willing to receive feedback from others we enlarge our own area of integrity. Both directions show the need for vulnerability – something we often are afraid of. I thank Steve Miller for sharing this book with me.

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