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Based on trust

trustNowhere in the Bible do we find an exhortation to: “trust one another”.  We are told to “encourage one another (1 Thessalonians 5:11), “exhort one another” (Hebrews 3:13) and “love one another” (1 John 4:7).  We are told to put our trust in God (Proverbs 3:5-6).  However, “trust one another” does not make the list of ‘one another’ commands.

Why?

This is the question I asked myself.

Trust is placing confidence in another. It is giving another an open door into my life without having to order what that engagement should look like.  It is not an action like encouragement.  I encourage another when I tell them they did an excellent job in facilitating a gathering of the community, for example.  That’s a tangible outworking of that one another command; a very specific step that was taken.

Trusting another is difficult to describe in tangible steps because it requires relinquishing control, believing the other is “for me”. Trusting another is also a two-way street in that it moves us to desire to see another excel.

Now that’s the ideal, but it’s the ideal that we should be striving towards by the grace of God.  Sometimes, we determine our engagement with one another by a series of guidelines or by a “process”.  Though these are helpful at times, they may cause us to skirt around the issue of trust, and not push us to consider the level of trust that exists between us.

Trust is built over time, but trust is also granted.  Rather than always waiting to see if another merits our trust, maybe we should consider first what keeps us from trusting others.

 

 

 

4 Responses

  1. Trust (or the lack of it) influences our ability to move forward to a large extent.

    The statement – “Trust is built over time, but trust is also granted” is highly relevant to our situation as co-workers with a view in mind to seeing Christ’s Gospel extended to the ends of the earth.

    I believe that trust must be our initial attitude in any given relationship within our family. Then, the individual receiving our trust will either confirm (through their good stewardship of our trust) their trustworthiness, or warn us (through their poor stewardship of our trust) of their need to grow in trustworthiness. If this is the case, the loving thing to do is to make others aware of what’s causing us to shrink back.

    Beginning with trust as a base will accelerate our progress (see Steven Covey’s “Speed of Trust”), and then will also cultivate an atmosphere of trust in our corporate environment.

    • I think you hit the proverbial ‘nail on the head’ when you wrote: “If this is the case, the loving thing to do is to make others aware of what’s causing us to shrink back.” This is the hardest thing for most of us to do. It’s easier not to say anything and back away from the person. What that does is allow an uneasy and suspicion filled atmosphere to be created. We need to intentionally move towards others to help them see where the trust capital is shrinking and we need to be ready and gracious as well for others to speak into our lives when we are holding back our trust towards them.

  2. The Bible maybe does not say that we should trust others; but the converse is true. If we are in leadership we should be trustworthy. Trustworthiness has to do with integrity. Integrity is being true and righteous.

    • Excellent thought, John. Wouldn’t have thought of that, but the point is well made and makes one look at the issue of trust in a different way.

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